Appreciate the Satisfaction in Your Baby Steps

Life is a continuum of baby steps.  It only makes sense, then, that your level of joy can be maximized by noticing the happiness you feel as you take little steps throughout your day.

This has been particularly difficult for me.  I always had my eye on the ball, the end game.  So much so, that I often didn't stop to appreciate the process of getting there.  The fear naturally becomes that you will never be truly happy unless you reach your goal(s), and once reached, what's next.

This is what I do differently now.

I look for the satisfaction in the small things I accomplish during my day.

For example:

"Got the laundry done today.  Isn't it satisfying to check something like that off your TO DO list.  I love having clean, fresh smelling clothes to put on.  It feels good to wear clothing that is freshly washed.  I appreciate looking into my closet and having my entire wardrobe to chose from.  Wearing nice clothing makes me feel good."

When I first started this practice, it felt contrived and silly.  It took a bit of focus to allow the visceral feeling of satisfaction and appreciation to surface.

If you are interested in playing along with me, do it the next time you feel satisfied.  If you want to try this out right away, look back in your experience for such a memory.  Now, milk the feeling for all its worth.  Talk about it (if only to yourself).  Keep the conversation positive.  Keep finding words that invoke the feeling of satisfaction and appreciation.  It's not enough to say that you are satisfied.  You have to use words that help you to feel satisfied.

The words we choose in life are very powerful; whether they are external or internal.  Choose carefully. 

This practice can pivot my day from feeling blah to being energized.  Let me know if this makes a difference in your daily outlook.

The Need to Express Myself

 Writing down my thoughts and feelings is something I have done since childhood.  First it was entries into a dairy, then it was writing poetry and prose (sometimes even song lyrics); this transitioned into journaling which morphed into blogging. 

Then I reached a point where I wasn't sure why I was writing.  What was the point?  There were lengthy periods when I didn't capture any of my thoughts on paper.  I know now that, even then, my mind was still sorting out what I wanted to get out of the process.  The feeling of satisfaction when I find the perfect words to express my thoughts was worth holding onto, but I needed more.

In the meantime, I found other ways to express myself.  I borrowed something from my childhood -- play.  Doing things simply for the joy they bring.  I took up golfing, gardening, cooking, sewing, cycling and reading.  I love it all.

I still haven't sorted out where my writing is taking me but I have decided to be open to what comes along.

Starting My Day Off Right

I start my day off with a cup of coffee.  A large mug with a heathy pour of 2% milk.

When I get up in the morning, I have a little routine that starts my day off right and feeling good.  I put on my housecoat, go to the washroom and head groggily down the stairs and into the kitchen.  I reach for one of my favourite mugs from either the cabinet or the dishwasher and brew a single cup in my coffee maker.

I'm not particular about the brand.  In fact, I'm not sure that I even like coffee all that much.  What I do like is the feeling of wrapping my hands around a warm mug, bringing it up to my waiting lips and slowly sipping at its contents.  The feeling is not complete until I comfortably position myself in my living room, with coffee in hand, so that I can gaze out the sliding doors into the green woods that are at the back of my house.

My husband, who is an early riser, is normally already engaged in activity while I am still wrapping myself up in the quiet comfort of my thoughts.  For me, the feeling is magic.  Taking the time to envision my day.

Life is made up of many little moments.  I am happier when I take the time to drink them in.

The Value of Creativity

 Feeling alive gives me the energy and enthusiasm to enjoy my life.

I find that when I undertake a creative endeavour, be it within the framework of writing, sewing or gardening (just to name some activities that work as my muse to awaken my creative spirit), I can feel a surge of energy stirring within me.

There is nothing that makes me feel more alive than going through the process of creating something that a moment ago was no more than an idea.  It can start with something as simple as a meal.  I see a recipe that looks interesting and ideas about how I would change it to suit my tastes begin to take form.  I look through the cupboards or go shopping for ingredients which come from the image taking shape in my mind.

Not everything works out.

This would be a disappointment if I was only interested in the goal - the finished product.  If I lose sight that I had fun during the process or that I had gained clarity about what I would do differently the next time, then certainly I would call this failure.

But as Thomas Edison said, "The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."